Wednesday, March 2, 2011

dating talk

I have two fabulous friends named Brandie and Kristie. We do things like watch Thunder games together and wonder why boys don't ask us out. Haha. Not really, on that last part. But we do occasionally discuss the fact that we know lots of lovely, single women who are not getting asked out on dates.

Today, Brandie sent me an email that contained the following tips for guys, regarding dating. I believe they came from this site, The Art of Manliness, which Kristie had shared with her.

Read. Enjoy. Learn.

Resurrect Dating

So, you’re ready to start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.

1. She wants you to ask. Despite the rhetoric you hear about the liberated woman, women still appreciate it when a guy asks her out on a date. They like when men take the initiative. I’ve heard lots of successful young professional women lament the fact that men don’t ask them out. They’re beautiful, smart, and charming, but don’t have a man. Be a man and ask these women out.

2. Asking is easy. Asking a woman out on a date isn’t rocket science. When you ask, though, do it in person or over the phone. If you’re poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook, you lose any credibility as a man.

3. Keep dates simple. Dates don’t have to be huge, expensive affairs. Keep it simple. If you want to keep things informal, ask her out for lunch or coffee. If you want a more romantic date, invite her over to your place and make dinner for her. She’ll be impressed that you know how to cook. The whole point of dating is to get some one on one interaction with a person to find out if she is someone you’d like to start a long term relationship with. Simple and frequent dates will assist you in this.

4. Prepare for rejection. Face it. Not every woman you ask out is going to say yes. Prepare for that. It’s no big deal if she says no. Think about it. You’re no worse off getting rejected than you were before you asked. You didn’t have a date with her before, you don’t have a date with her now. Your situation has not changed.

5. Just do it. So what are you waiting for? Quit reading this post right now and pick up your cell phone. Call a woman and ask her on a date. Stop hanging out and start dating. Stop being scared of commitment. Commitment is liberating, not confining.


  1. See, I know a lot of great guys (my husband's friends) who can't seem to find single women to ask out! The bar scene is iffy so it's hard sometimes. We should start a dating service :)

  2. Great tips! They really can be used for married men too (minus the rejection topic). To ask your wife on a date... It makes it more official and special, rather than just planning a dinner or activity together. Sometimes you get so busy with life you forget to do things like this. It's important to continue "dating" and sharing time together on an intimate level... alone with no kids, haha. :) Nice share!


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